11 Main Reasons Why Some Women Find Love While Some Don't

Relationships can be confusing as to why some couples last and why some people break-up. Why is it that some people find love and others don’t? To help understand the many aspects of falling in love and being a couple we have here 11 reasons why some women find love, and others don’t.

 

The right time in their lives

Timing is everything in life. The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Finding love can have to do with the right timing in life. When; careers, emotions, ambitions, and biological clock's align just right. Where the both of them met and were looking for love in the right time in their lives, that`s when love will strike.

 

Luck

Whether it's that they met the right people, or have a lot of connections, luck can sometimes be the final factor. Is it luck, or just getting out there and meeting the right people and making yourself as available to meeting as many as possible?

 

Acceptance, make him feel accepted

Acceptance is what can attract men. A woman who won't expect too much from him or the way he acts, what she wants from the relationship or the gifts she gets from him. He wants life to be easy going, so naturally, will want to be with someone who can keep it that way.

 

Independent/ Make him feel needed

A woman who comes off as independent, financially, emotionally, and in other ways can be what attracts him. Acting too needy can be a turn-off. But did we know that being independent can be a turn-on? Coming off as independent has a way of making men believe she needs to be pursued, and men just need an invitation to do the chasing.

On the other hand, some women are the opposite. This can also be a turn-on to some men. There are men out there who want to take care of their lady, and a more dependent woman can reach his masculine, heroic, loving side.

To be safe if you don't know him yet, display both sides and have a healthy balance of each, not overbearing on either.

 

Gets along with friends and family

Many times a relationship doesn't just have to do with the couple involved, but with friends and family as well. This means that now and then it's not just about the chemistry between the couple, but how well she fits in with family and friends. Where lovers may come and go friends and family are more long-term. So if he has to make a choice between the two, he can sometime pick his friends over her, as they're the more lasting of the two.

 

Balance

Men can find stability in a woman attractive because they don't want someone who doesn't know how to control her emotional intelligence or issues which may come up in life. Men aren't going to like drama and do like to keep things easy going, so this is why they want a stable match.

 

Fits into his everyday living

Sometimes the chemistry doesn't have to do with her, but with his lifestyle. Many factors can come into play, his financial situation, their goals, vacationing, mobility, people he associates with, and other factors. This means that two people's lifestyles will affect their chemistry and attraction towards each other. At times it really doesn`t have to do with her or anything she did, it was just that she didn`t fit into his lifestyle.

 

The right friends

Friends and family who have paired them up well could be the element that made love happen. They could just be fortunate enough that when her friend met the right man for her, she was thinking of matching them together. Most of the time life isn`t about your own abilities, but who you know in life. Get the word out that you`re looking for a match, who knows, maybe your friend knows just the right guy for you. They`ve just forgotten about your present situation.

 

Meeting in the right environment

Finding love can be very much like fishing. If you're fishing in the ocean, you're not going to catch a fresh water fish. Finding love means looking for love in the right places. Meeting the man of your dreams means only seeking for him in places that he will most likely be found. Join clubs and do activities that feature the qualities that you find attractive in the man of your dreams. Looking for him in the wrong place is just going to throw away your time and could even distract you with the wrong kind of guy.

 

What others want is different than what you do

Not only is the opposite sex confused about what the other finds attractive, but each individual is different. Individuals can have unique standards about what they find attractive in the opposite sex, especially about personality traits.

 

Don't close doors

Most couples don't fall in love at first sight. Sometimes attraction takes time to happen. Writing him off as unattractive or putting him in the friend zone too early can be hasty.  Most couples are established from friendships and people spending time together before deciding whether they are attracted to each other or not.

These are the many factors that can contribute to love, and questioning why a couple has it won`t always give you the results that will help you find love. Keep looking, stay upbeat, and keep your hopes up, love will find you soon.

 

 

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9 Habits that Will Help You Find Love (Blog)

Finding love isn’t something that you just wait to come along. In life there are things we need to put into practice if we want to see results. Just like in any love life, there are habits that need to be put in practice that can help you find love. Here are the 9 Habits that can move your love life along.

 

Making yourself approachable

Making yourself easy to talk to is a very significant quality if you are looking for love. This is because no one is going to speak with you or have the boldness to approach you if you're not approachable. Making yourself welcoming is done by direct eye contact and having a good smile. These are often neglected in women who expect men to approach them and question why men don't. Men commonly wait for eye contact from the women they set their eyes on before approaching them, and a smile from them can set them at ease and give them the courage they need to approach her. These are habits that need to be exercised and not ignored if you are looking for love.

 

Stay with your standards

Knowing your worth and not settling for any man will help you find true love. Aim for Mr. Right, and don't put up for less that your expectations. There are many men out there who don't live up to your standards of love, and can't give you the love you deserve. Unhappily, many women will put up with them and as a result, lose the opportunity of meeting the right man or finding true love. Stick to your standards of love and get rid of others who can't grant your heart’s desire for love.

 

Being sociable

When it comes to finding love, being friendly is vital. Learning to be talkative and sociable with the guys you see can increase your odds of something more developing. Not only can this help you directly, but perhaps they may know the perfect match for you.

On this matter, learn how to hold a discussion. Learn how to carry your part of the discussion as anybody will feel awkward if you aren't adding valuable banter. In addition, don't just talk with them. Learn to maneuver the discussion towards flirtier subject, your passions and his. This will make you stand out in his mind as an interesting person. Don't just go with the dull flow of wherever the conversation takes you, control the discussion.

 

Having a good energy

Outside of the time you spend together, people can either imagine good of you or bad. You want to have a good energy about yourself. When people are uplifted when they think of you, it is an environment that is conductive to love. Be careful about the energy you put out, as a negative one can damage your efforts in finding love. This can be done by staying on the positive side of things, by always giving optimistic feedback about people and situations.

One way of influencing the way people think about you is to always give compliments to them. This will paint you out to be an encouraging person, and people will like you much more.

 

Having character

Not everyone will fall in love with someone they meet right away. Many people fall in love with another over the course of time, after they have thought it through and decided they would be a good match for each other, this is why character is vital. It's much like a job interview that lasts a month; you need to be making an impression on them for a substantial amount of time in order for love to grow.

Things that can give them the wrong impression about you are things like; talking behind people's backs, slandering them, or lying to them. These things are going to catch up to you in the end. So you can see why making an impression through lasting character is important.

 

Not getting discouraged

In order to be successful in anything in life, you need to stick with it. Love doesn't necessarily happen according to our time frame, and this can get us depressed. When discouragement comes around it can make us moody and stop our efforts in finding love. As a result we give up doing the habits that are conductive to finding love and put on habits that will actually push love away from us.

 

Trying the new

Trying new things is a habit that will help in finding love on two levels. The first is that it broadens the areas and people that we meet, allowing you to bump into the right person. The second is that more adventurous people tend to be more charismatic by nature; people love others who are full of life and live it to the fullest.

 

Surrounding yourselves with the right people

The people you spend your time around can influence your efforts in finding love. The wrong people will pull you down with their unhealthy attitudes and words, they can also affect your; mood, time, and goals of finding love. Or maybe they are making the wrong impression on the people around you. Spend your time around people who are going to encourage your; time, efforts, and goals of finding love. Hanging around the wrong people will just hurt your love life.

 

Getting the healing we need

When it comes to our past, baggage from past relationships can harm and even stop future relationships from forming. This is why healing from our past is key in finding love. This can be through; counseling, taking time for yourself, getting closure, or talking it over with someone close. Whatever the case, it is a needed step in bettering our future relationships.

A lot of people believe that love will just show up without seeing that there are things we have to do to make love come along. Building these habits is a vital step for love to happen, so take control of your love life, and put these practices in place.

 

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